As we were on our knees praying this evening, I was humbly reminded of the precious innocence of a little child of God.
As Ryder repeated my prayer word for word, I again realized that everything I do, everything I say, everything that I am..is who I am teaching my little one to be. It's so easy to sit there sometimes and say "yeah I know that!" but how many times do we catch ourselves doing or saying the wrong thing, acting the wrong way, eating bad things (I LOVE chocolate, like so much).
Earlier in the evening, Ryder was messing around with our puppy, Bailey Bear, (see some of Ryder's February posts for her blog debut) and threw a candle holder in her direction. It missed her by an inch and hit the glass table, shattering into tiny little pieces and seeping down into the rug (I walked around barefoot after just in case *thumbs up*).
My first reaction was to say something out of anger like: "how many times did I tell you NOT to play with those? How many times do I have to tell you NOT to throw things at Bailey?"
My blood was boiling and I turned and stared at Ryder as soon as it happened. When I locked eyes with him..the mere look in his eyes regretfully showed me that he already KNEW he had done something very wrong. He knew he messed up and quickly started picking up the pieces saying in a somber voice, "I'm sorry mommy, I'm sorry."
With those words, all of my anger was washed away into pity. How can I condemn him when we all make mistakes?
...But man it was hard. I'm FAR from perfect (no shit) and there are plenty of times when I lose my cool. Like those nights of getting restless sleep and then your child comes in to wake you up at 4:30am just because..'they're hungry, no never mind they want to watch Mickey, but wait, no they're tired and they want to lay on the couch but need covers so you cover them with a throw, then "WHERE ARE MY COVERS??" (right at your feet..they just fell off) just kidding they want to dance and "why can't I just have ONE lollipop before school?! mom! where are you?" (I'm hiding under the covers)' and you have to work the next day! Those nights…those are my favorite.
I'm joking, those are miserable, let's be real here- but we all go through it and somehow we get passed it, because without the hard times we wouldn't appreciate the good times- right?
So, I sent him to his room to think about what he had done and not even 10 minutes later he comes out and apologizes again for the unfortunate circumstance that had occurred Ah ha! My quiet, "mom look" worked! (Feel free to use this one anytime!) Maybe it won't work EVERY time, but it worked tonight so to go along with my blog post, I'm going to say I #nailedit and I'm proud.
In all seriousness, I guess my thoughts revert back to patience…and how we need to try our BEST to be of the utmost POSITIVE influence on our children, because they hold the future in their tiny little hands…and the future is a scary place; so let's help them build strong protective armor against the evil, devilish, ungodly ways; and let's be honest, there is A LOT of the aforementioned going around these days.
Did I mention that your child doesn't have to be the 4 year old kneeling next to you praying? No no no- your children never become "not your children…" I am still a child and YOU are still a child and we all need our parents (Jesus included) to protect us, watch over us, care for us, give us some damn good advice and make sure we stay on the path of righteousness. It's difficult at times, but what other choice do we have?!
Can I get an AMEN?? ..anddddd with that can we get some sleep now?
P.S.- They are watching you!
We all already know the importance of kids getting enough fruit and vegetables into their daily diet. However, finding a way to get little ones to eat 2-4 servings of fruit and 3-5 servings of vegetables every day can be tough - extremely tough if the SIGHT of those fruits or vegetables has your child running for the hills!
When Ryder was a baby, he ate fruits and vegetables like it was his job. Healthy and chunky- he has always been a good eater. That is, until he hit 3. "No" and "I don't like (yike) it!" were common household words and I'm pretty sure the dog ate his veggies a few times (or more).
One day I was working out at the gym and started craving a smoothie-I went down to the Cafe to order one- and that's when it hit me. I'll just make him DRINK his vegetables!
Now, side note, I don't make smoothies every night…there are more nights than not that he is "forced" to eat his peas, carrots or broccoli (I'm such a mean mom!), but occasionally I will "treat" him to a smoothie with his dinner and BOY does he down it.
Two of my (and Ryder's) favorite vegetable smoothie recipes are down below. If you have some of the same struggles as I do with getting your kids to eat their fruits or veggies, try one of my smoothies below and let me know if your kiddo enjoys it!
The Green Monster:
-1 cup milk
-2 cups spinach leaves
-1 whole banana (cut up)
-2 tablespoons peanut butter
-1/2 cup vanilla greek yogurt
-3-4 pieces of ice
It's all Pea-chy:
-1/4 cup peas
- 1/4 cup orange juice
-6 oz. organic peach whole fruit yogurt
-2 cups mango (substitute for peaches or really any other fruit)
-2-3 pieces of ice
Let's be honest, adults. There are days when you don't eat all of your vegetables or fruit servings either. So make it fun for the whole family- find a healthy alternative to eating right for everyone! If your kids see YOU doing it, they will probably want to do it too.
Here's a video of Ryder drinking his smoothie before school- "the Monster mash!"
…sidenote: *fake cough* :)
I have to rave for a moment about Avocados.
Funny thing is I HATED them growing up…but as I got older, I finally started to appreciate the fine taste of the soft, green super food that has so many vitamins and minerals in it; over 20 to be exact, including potassium (helps to control blood pressure), lutein (which is good for your eyes), and folate (beneficial for cell repair and during pregnancy).
They are also a good source of B vitamins, which help fight off disease and infection, as well as vitamins C and E, plus natural plant chemicals that may help prevent cancer. This delicious super food is also low in sugar and high in the GOOD fat, that helps lower bad cholesterol. YAY for being healthy!
Thank you Avocados..for yummy Whole Foods guacamole (my favorite), delicious salads and smoothies and for [drum roll please!] my all time favorite eye cream- Kiehl's Creamy Eye Treatment with Avocado.
Ah, this refreshing eye cream with avocado oil soothes and hydrates under your eyes, and if you're anything like me and suffer from dark circles and puffiness, this is for you! This stuff will not seep into your eyes and leaves them feeling cool and fresh. The green pigment also helps to alleviate the reds and purples under your eyes, leaving a nice toned and balanced look and feel.
How to use: Apply by tapping the moisturizer with your fingertips delicately around your eye area without pulling the skin. Use in the mornings and at night for ultimate effect. I also refrigerate mine- it goes right next to the butter at the top of my fridge! This gives an extra cooling and refreshing sensation!
The cost is worth it. A .5 ounce container is $28.50 at Nordstrom, and lasts a long time!
We're all wearing our green today, and I certainly will be wearing mine…#kiehls
Let me know how YOU like it!
Never underestimate the strength and love of a mother.
We, as women (and moms), must stick together and support one another, because it is already tough enough being a woman in this world, right?
I'd like to start off this FIRST EVER Mommy & Me "Mom of the Week" post with a great quote. One that really stands out to me and I firmly believe in.
"The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity."
-Margaret D. Nadauld
I must say, this woman you are about to see photos of possesses every single positive quality in that quote, and that is why I am HONORED that she even considered shooting for our blog post.
I have been blessed to know Nicole since before the boys were even born, and I have come to admire her strength, love, passion for life and kindness toward others more than ever over the last 4 years.
This beautiful single mom works incredibly hard to support herself and her little man, so that she can provide the best life possible for Ethan- so he can play tee ball and have the same opportunities other little boys his age have. That is why she is the "Mom of the Week" this week.
We can't forget her little guy though. Ethan is one sweet momma's boy! He turns 4 in April, loves baseball and the movie "The Sandlot," but more importantly I was able to appreciate and witness the love he has for his sweet mommy- and the love she has for him as well. Wow. That is powerful!
There is nothing greater than the love between a mother and her child, and with that said, please join me in supporting Nicole & Ethan below by checking out their amazing photoshoot!
What Nicole wore- Blazer: H&M // T-shirt: H&M // Jeans: H&M // Watch: Kate Spade // Necklace: H&M Heels: Rock & Republic. Second outfit- Scarf: Nordstrom // Shirt: Target // Booties: Charming Charlie's.
What Ethan wore- Button-up: H&M // Pants: H&M // Shoes: H&M. Second Outfit: Sweater- Target. Jeans: H&M.