<![CDATA[Ryder Styles Dallas - Mommy\'s Corner]]>Fri, 11 Mar 2016 00:40:33 -0600Weebly<![CDATA[To My Everything, My Little Man.]]>Thu, 10 Mar 2016 14:58:01 GMThttp://www.ryderstylesdallas.com/mommys-corner/to-my-everything-my-little-man What better day, than the day of my son's birth (down to the exact time of his birth) to post a sappy love blog full of memories, my own saga & a little tough love for my almost all-grown up 5 year old.
It has been a while since I have written a post, and quite frankly I'm not even sure I have the energy to write this at midnight after a long day of work (not to mention a grueling work out earlier this evening) all while trying to still play stay-at-home-mom to my little Spring Break born child.
I am tired & drained... emotionally, mentally, physically, you name it. There are times when I feel like a chicken with my head cut off, and sometimes when I honestly just break down and cry, mostly out of pure exhaustion and sleep deprivation. As a single mom, majority of the time I feel like I am playing both mommy and daddy, and more times than not, I am the "bad guy." We argue, privileges are taken away, he gets sent to his room which then is usually followed with a "I don't like you, mommy!" or "You're not my best friend!" 
I could lie to you and say those little words don't hurt my feelings, but they do sting, and there is nothing I can do about that. I wouldn't be human if those words didn't cut like knives, whether it's coming from my 5 year old or anyone else for that matter!
You know what I say? "I love you, Ryder, but I don't want to be your best friend, I want to be your mommy." I choose to stand my ground, for the betterment of my child. I refuse to give in because I know that will only hurt him in the end. I stay strong, even when it hurts my heart or when I turn away or have to run to the bathroom to cry (you know what I'm talking about!).
With that said, I will end this with a letter to Ryder. An "I'm sorry, I'm not sorry" letter, so he understands why I make the decisions I do, and that most of the time they are just as hard on me as they are him. But, my hope is that he knows how much I love him.

To my little man,

I am sorry that I work "all the time" and cannot play dinosaurs or sword fighting for hours. I am not sorry that I am showing you what an educated, successful woman looks like and helping to carve a path of success for your future by doing so though.

I am sorry that I make you cry when you talk back to me and I take your toys or iPad away. I am not sorry that I am teaching you how to be polite, respectful and kind to others though.

I am sorry that your mommy and daddy are no longer married and that you have a difficult time transitioning from house to house sometimes. I am not sorry that this situation teaches you adversity, how to cope with change and how much both parents can love a child without actually being in the same house though.

I am sorry I cannot make every soccer practice, school performance or class party due to work like some of the other moms. I am not sorry that we have our own fun game night or sporting practices at home after work, and tons of parties/hang out sessions together on the weekends though.

I am sorry that you have seen or heard me cry when I have been hurt, sad, scared, tired, etc. I am not sorry that you will learn to comfort others when they are hurting, you will understand the true meaning of empathy or that you will know that it is OK to cry sometimes though.

I am sorry that I cannot pick you up from "carline" at school with the other stay-at-home moms when I so badly want to. I am not sorry that you have extra time to learn, explore, imagine and play with other kids for a little bit longer each day though,

I am sorry that I do not get to see you every single day of your life. I am not sorry that you understand the importance of quality versus quantity of time and that being away from me never means forever though.

I am sorry that some nights I am just so exhausted I want to sit, cuddle and watch a movie with you. I am not sorry that you are able to see that work and life can be exhausting and it's good to learn to appreciate the downtime sometimes though.

I hope that you realize that life is not that serious. 

I hope that you are not afraid to take risks and venture out of the "box" society closes us up in.

I hope that you start and finish college, one day.

I hope that you truly love yourself, before you love someone else.

I hope that you give back and donate time, money, items, to a good cause.

Most of all, I hope that you are happy.

I love you more than you will ever know.


Love,
Your mommy (and best friend, most days)


Happy Birthday, to my silly, goofy, cute, funny, talkative, wild, loving, caring, cuddling little baby boy, Ryder. I cannot believe you are five.



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<![CDATA[10 Ways to Enjoy Pineapple this Summer!]]>Wed, 17 Jun 2015 19:20:18 GMThttp://www.ryderstylesdallas.com/mommys-corner/10-ways-to-enjoy-pineapple-this-summerThe fruit of the summer…that delicious, juicy spiky fruit that I (quite ashamed to admit) was always afraid to cut up until just recently. I am totally obsessed! You'll see why below. 

Here are 10 ways I will be enjoying pineapple this summer:

1. Grilled Pineapple: Simply grilling some thick juicy slices of pineapple makes a great side dish with its caramelized sugary taste. I like to add a little honey, lemon juice and a sprinkle of black pepper to top it off.

2. Pineapple Popsicles: All you need is milk, thinly chopped pineapple and a little sugar, and this cool treat will have your kiddos (and you!) going crazy for more! Find the recipe here.

3. Fresh Pineapple: This juicy fruit is just as delicious eaten as is, plain and simple! Just the way Ryder likes it!

4. Wear it: A great way to enjoy pineapple this summer is to wear it! These cute swim suits are available at St. Bernard Sports. Comfy and cute for the whole family!
5. Infused Pineapple: For those 21+, my favorite summer treat is just some fresh pineapple cut up and soaked in vodka. Titos is my personal favorite and the longer it soaks, the better (I prefer about a week! So plan ahead.)

6. Pineapple drinks: For the kiddos, you can do pineapple juice and water (or sprite) for a fresh cool drink at the pool. 1 cup of pineapple juice actually contains 131% of the daily value of Vitamin C. For us big kids, my favorite pineapple drink is a Frozen Pineapple Daiquiri! Yum.

7.  Frozen Pineapple pieces: These will cool you off! Put the chunks on toothpicks and freeze for a refreshing snack for you and the kids!

8. Pineapple Sorbet: You don't need anything but 1 can of pineapple chunks packed in juice. Freeze the can for a couple of days, take it out and let it stand for 10 minutes. Put the block of pineapple into a blender for a minute and serve immediately! Delicious and healthy dessert!

9. Pineapple Cobbler: Spread the can of pineapple chunks on the bottom of a lightly greased brownie pan, sprinkle a box of dry jiffy yellow cake mix (the small box) Drizzle a stick of melted butter over the top and bake at 350 for 10-15 minutes (I just check it until it's the color we like!)

10. Chips and Pineapple Salsa: This recipe is to die for! We love making fresh salsa and fresh guacamole and this is a GREAT one for the summer. Check out the recipe here and try it for yourself!

What Ryder Wore: Bathing Suit- St. Bernard Sports

What Mommy Wore: Bathing Suit- St. Bernard Sports
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<![CDATA[Families who Yoga together, stick together!]]>Tue, 26 May 2015 18:58:40 GMThttp://www.ryderstylesdallas.com/mommys-corner/families-who-yoga-together-stick-together"It's not about having time, it's about making time." 
On days where I end up working late and don't have the energy to make it to the gym, I will pull out my Yoga mat and get a workout in right at home.

When I first started doing this, my little Ry bug would come and jump on my back or mimic my poses. So, I figured I would just buy him his own kid's yoga mat and he can just start doing them with me! These shots below are not "pretty," because I really want you to get an idea of what happens in our home on these evenings. Raw, real, true.


Yes- Ryder Styles is wearing PJs (minion pants to be exact), and yes, Bailey Bear is in the background as well. She's always jumping around, trying to lick our faces while we work out! 
I must say, when Ryder and I work out together, it's more fun and more challenging. Nine times out of ten, I am getting a better workout in with him there! Not to mention, on rainy days, it makes for some fun entertainment while building muscle and burning calories together.

They say yoga is good for the mind, body and soul, and a great tool for your child's growth as well. I am a firm believer in staying healthy, eating healthy and spending as much time with your family as possible, so why not incorporate all three at once?! 

What do you do with your family to stay healthy?
Here is one of my favorite kid-friendly yoga sites, with 5 different poses for you and your little one: 
Mind Body Green.
Check it out and let me know how it works for you!
What Mommy Wore- Shirt: Y&R (Young & Reckless) // Yoga pants: Champion (Target).
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<![CDATA[Ryder's Room.]]>Mon, 13 Apr 2015 23:12:44 GMThttp://www.ryderstylesdallas.com/mommys-corner/ryders-roomWell, it's all done! Almost…(although I'm pretty sure it will never be completely finished). Thanks to multiple cups of coffee, a little help and many sleepless nights, Ryder's room finally has all of the finished pieces to his new "big boy room."

The style? Native monochrome with a touch of love and memories. 

To give a little background as to the thought process behind it all…
Ryder is ALWAYS talking about "forts" and we had destroyed my living room one too many times before I thought "why don't I just build a permanent one in his room!" So, I started thinking about ways he could sleep in a fort without making his room look like Bed Bath and Beyond sheets just threw up on it and it hit me- TEEPEE IT IS!

I searched and searched to find the best fit for Ryder and I must say, this thing is AMAZING!! The teepee is from Little Juniper TeePees (@LJteepees on Instragram). From the sturdy poles & ties to the material, this was more than worth the cost ($130 on their Etsy store! plus shipping).

The dream catcher was from Amazon retailer CaughtDreams (they're on Facebook too if you want to see different colors/styles). This is one of the nicest, inexpensive dream catchers I have seen in a long time.

I also wanted to add some sentimental pieces into the room, so I designed the framed artwork hung below the arrow. The one on the left says "More than all the stars in the sky." This is what Ryder and I always say to each other and is now tattooed on my arm as well! The two triangles hold Ryder's first pair of Jordan's and his first pair of Ray Bans (a Christmas present from our awesome cousins). 
The "RYDER" letters were painted by my closest friend and my siblings during my pregnancy with Rydeordie. Those letters probably mean the most out of everything in his room and have become a symbol of the love my friends and family have for Ryder (and for me too!).

The wooden bed frame was actually handmade and designed with a little, OK a LOT of help from my handy boyfriend. We wanted to build a frame that would allow the teepee to fit over the bed so, we bought the wood from Home Depot, sanded it and painted the brackets black. This thing is awesome (thanks Nic!). The wooden stump "side table" next to the teepee was given to us from my neighbor. We sanded it then spray-painted it in a silver metallic color. 
I found the arrow at Kohl's and painted it matte black (it was red before). It lights up and has an automatic timer so it doubles as a great nightlight for Ryder too! The frames were purchased from HomeGoods and I designed the artwork in Photoshop.
The plant and latern (which we plan to hang next to the teepee eventually) were both found at HomeGoods and the "Live the Life You Love" is from Kohl's.
I'm proud of Ryder's room, the work that went into it and the love and time my family and friends have given to making this adorable monochromatic native bedroom possible.

What do you think?
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